Auto Drivers of Chennai!!!

People,

A weird kind of incident happened to me once, last week for me. I caught an auto from our auto stand which i usually take and it is always i pay Rs.50 for a 4.5 KM drive from R.A.Puram to G.N.chetty road, Tnagar. The usual driver did not tell me anything initially and after .5KM he started to wine and crib, stating that "today is a bandh day and i have taken out the auto out of risk". Then i started to look around and there was n number of autos roaming around. He said "'no' 'no' it is strike today and not all are participating and still it is a risk". I thought out of a good will, me as a regular passenger to him, he is driving for me. But still i saw lot of autos around. I got dropped at my office, and this driver said, you need to pay double rate today, meaning to Rs.100. I got startled. I asked, why? He said out of risk he has brought me to the office. I asked what risk he took. He could not answer. But still he demanded for Rs.100. I said, "I come regularly from your auto stand and still I can give only Rs.50 and more than that I did not hear any news in the radio/tv that there is going to be a strike today". Meanwhile, the office securities who were standing in the front of my office came to my rescue and finally i paid only Rs.50 at last after a while of arguement.

People, tell me what is the written rule, that we need to pay double amount of our usual auto charge, if there is a bandh? Is it a way for the auto drivers to make quick money.

During Bandh, rain, unusual events, they try to make quick money and who has to be blamed on these type of begging? Why the auto drivers of Chennai, are creating mental agony to the passengers in these kind of different ways? Does they want to make quick money? OR they want to stay as auto driver for ever in their life by pressurizing us and get our hidden curses?

இன்றய பெண்கள் :

1) சமைக்க ஆசைப் படுவதில்லை
2) நன்றாய் அழகு பண்ணிக்கொள்ள ஆசைப்படுகிறார்கள்.
3) பேராசை கொண்டவர்களாய் இருப்பதாகத் தெரிகிறது.
4) பிள்ளைகள் பெற்றூக்கொள்ள விரும்புவதில்லை.
5) கணவனுக்கு இணையாய் பேப்பர் படிக்க விரும்புகிறார்கள்
6) கணவனுக்கு இணையாய் வேலைக்கு போகிறார்கள்
7) தனது மாமியாரை தனக்கு குடும்ப வேலைக்காரியாய் ஆக வேண்டுமென விரும்புகிறார்கள்.
8) தனது பிள்ளைதான் வகுப்பில் முதலில் வர வேண்டுமென எண்ணுகிறார்கள்.
9) தானே கார் ஓட்டுகிறார்கள்
10) சாலை விதி முறைகளை மதிப்பதேயில்லை.
11) சரவணா ஸ்டோர்ஸ் சென்று எல்லா ப்ளாஸ்டிக் பொருட்களையும் வாங்கும் எண்ணம் கொண்டவர்களாக இருக்கிறர்கள்.
12) புது புது சுடிதர் வாங்கி தைத்து தைத்து போட்டுக்கொள்கிறார்கள்.
13) மைக்ரொவேவ் ஓவனில் திடீர் சமையல் செய்கிறார்கள்
14) மிஷினில் துணி துவைக்கிறார்கள்.
15) பிள்ளைக்கு டிவியில் வரும் விளம்பரம் காட்டி சோறு ..இல்லை இல்லை பிஸ்ஸா ஊட்டுகிறார்கள்.
16) கணவனுக்கு டிவி தொடர் பார்த்துக்கொண்டே சாப்பாடு 'போடுகிறார்கள்'.
17) பிள்ளையிடம் வீட்டுப்பாடத்தை டிவி தொடர் விளம்பர இடைவேளையில் செய்துகொள்ளலாம் என்கிறார்கள்.
18) வீட்டிற்கு விருந்தாளிகள் வருவதை விரும்புவதேயில்லை.
19) தொலைபேசியில் வெகு நேரம் தனது தாய் அல்லது தமக்கையிடம் அரட்டை அடிப்பதுதான் ரொம்ப பிடிக்கும்
20) அல்ப ஆசைகளுக்கு அடிமைகாகிறார்கள்

எங்கே செல்கிறார்கள் .............எதை நோக்கி செல்கிறார்கள்...

What is the responsibility of a man kind?

Today I met one of my friend. He works for a software solutions company. He asked me about my family and the kids. I told that my son is in 10th grade and daughter in 8th grade. I also added that we are struggling to live with the household chores as we both are working. He also accepted and told that there should not be a problem, if we leave the kids at boarding school. He also added that we should live for ourselves, instead for some one else in the world. Moreover he told, that we need not take responsibilities of others and instead take responsibility of ourselves. I got shocked by the way he told me. I said, how come we can leave the kids at boarding and what is the purpose of our life, if we leave the kids at boarding and we live alone. He said, it will take some time for me to understand. He said, we will discuss the same topic after a while, and asked me to think about it.

I could not believe to hear that he has left his kid at one of the Boarding school at Anantapur, Andhrapradesh. I came to know, his wife is not working and is a housewife, and one more thing also surprised me that he told, that he is planning to leave his second kid also at the boarding school. I got astonished to hear this, but he said this in a very cool way.

He says what is wrong in that. I asked what his wife is doing at home? She is not even working and what is her duty to be a mother? The way he replied, really I could not believe. He said, his wife has given birth to two kids and enjoying at her house and whenever she feels like she goes to her mom's house, in-laws house and she basically living 'Her' life and enjoying her well being. I reverted asking then whats the purpose of having the kids. "Kids have arrived at nature's way and they need to be given with good health, environment and education at a good place which they are getting" my friend answered.

I said I still cannot understand. He said, it will take some time for you to understand and told me the following story:

There was a small hut near by a river. There lived a small family, husband, wife and 2 lovely kids. The husband works as a boat man and the wife took care of the kids at the hut. The kids used to play at the river side and they lived happily. the river is not a big flowing river and always it used to be a very calm and a free flowing river without any dangers. The family ran through a nicer life and the boatman used to be very kind with the kids and his wife cooks and take care of the family and they also had big dreams like any other human being. The girl child is so attached with the boat man and the boy used to be very much passionate with his mom and does all the chores given by his mom before he goes out to play. The kids were growing very fast and the boat man also started to become weak. Once, the boy said, 'pop one fine day i will go out to work across the river and keep everyone very happy at home and you need not take out the boat any more then on..'. The boatman also started to have big dreams of his family, living in a big house and instead of the small boat, they had a ship ........all in his dreams.

One fine day, it started to rain, and the family took it in a lighter way, as it used to be since the rainy season has started. The rain started to long last than ever and it started to downpour unlike any of the previous years. The hut started to get the river water inside, and the boatman and his son started to build a small terrace over a tree beside...the rain continued still and they all took their stuff and stayed over the tree for 3 more days. Suddenly all the eatables also got ran out and they started to starve. Still the rain started to downpour. No food......No Shelter.....the boat man became too nervous and week also. He became very scary and frustration started all over among themselves. The girl child started to wine and she started to ask for food every now and then. The rain continued, the, water level started to raise towards the tree where they were basically floating and finally the water level reached at the bark they were sitting. Thunder....lightening.....dark night....... literally no help.......Down pour...... Water level went beyond the tree....... They kept hold of each others' hands.......the lady took her girl child over her head and the boat man took the son in his head....Water level went beyond... the lady told..i cannot take her any more....and the man said......leave her and start to swim.....they both left their beloved kids and started to swim together....boat man said.....dont worry, we can have more kids.....at least you survive..more gush of water......they both started to swim and the boat man lost his wife also along the severity of the flood.

Therefore, the mankind, created by GOD is very selfish. At the time of crisis, they cannot take care of each other, and have to run for their own life. So if we understand the creativity of the GOD, we will not have the false 'pasam', 'nesam', 'affection' all these in our life. All are in one way a big Mirage. So we need to understand that in the path of our life we get husband/wife, the kids and start to live as one famly. At the time of a BIG crisis, the concept of family gets shattered and there is literally no value for it. Therefore, once we get children we need to make them to stand on their own. By making a false bonding called 'FAMILY' we spoil them and make false promises to them stating that we will take care of them. We can never take care of them and only until a crisis we can.

Finally my friend, said, it will take some time for you to understand this. He tried to justify his decision on putting his children in the boarding.......but I still cannot believe it........

Does some one has any thought of it?

Fake the Smile People!!!

Today, my son left his lunch box accidentally at home, and i had to take it to the school around 9.30Am. I expected a lot that some one from the school will collect the lunch box and hand it over to my son's class. I went to the school's office and pleaded the staff at the office. Everyone, there was hostile and did not wanted to take this small motherly responsibility. I begged them where exactly I can give the lunch box and one person told me to give it in the reception. There was no one in the reception.

We need to refine the school staff to be good with us and even if they do not want to take up our request, instead of responding in a hostile way, they can tell us that they cannot do that by delivering the words with a smile. What are we going to lose by giving a smile at people? I am also a working wome and I completely understand the stress of our womenkind who has taken up a career.

All we expect is to do our duty with a exchange of a smile.

Some how I have dropped the lunch box at the reception, and no one received it by the way and do not know whether some one have picked it up and gave it to my son at X std C sec. This is a small request from a mother who wants to give her son the lunch box, who had left it at home by mistake. All through my day till my son returns back home and gives me a call, I need to keep thinking, whether he had his lunch or not. Why to make me stressed out like this?

Instead if some one, (even a ayah/an attender) had collected the lunch box and told me with a smiley face that they will hand it over to my son, how nice it would be ?

We need a change in the people's attitude and make them happy and ask them to fake the smile atleast......................

My beloved cousin brother

hmm...my beloved cousin brother expired yesterday. though i did not had touch with him in the recent past, i still remember my childhood days spent with him. he lost his mother when he was 2 days old and was raised by his step mother. he had 4 sisters from his step mother and has struggled a lot to fill the needs of his family. he studied hard and became a amie engineer and somehow managed to get a job in pwd. he used to be very nice with my mom and dad and talks very passionately with us. whenever he comes to my house in my early childhood days, he used to bring lot of 'Tirunelveli halwa' and i used to eagarly wait for his arrival every time for this only. he shells out all his worries and problems to my mom and dad and they also used to be very much attached with him....and try to help him.

i recently met him in my niece's wedding, and he was keeping in good health....i still remember his everlasting smile on his face ....never complains about his troubles ..but.....something might have kept on bothering him.

poor my brother who was survived by his wife, 2 daughters and a son lost his life and took his last breath yesterday after having 2 severe heart attacks......

i can offer few of my tear drops for him on his demise!!!!!

It is very hard to find people, who never hurts anyone neither physically nor mentally and very hard to find people who used to be very much attached and passionate with us. My brother Kalanjiyam is one among the rarest....Let his soul rest in peace..........................................

Can we run a drive against spitting in the Chennai City?

Can we run a drive against spitting in the Chennai City?

One scene : I took an auto from R.A.Puram to TNagar. This auto guy demanded Rs.50 for just 4.5 Km and i just accepted with out any argument. The time he started to drive he spit once on his right hand side. I just flinched and came to the left extreme of my seat in the auto and somehow managed not to catch the "Spit" in my office wear. After .5Km there was a signal. This guy stopped the vehicle and spitted on the road in the left hand side. I immediately flinched and went to the right extreme of my seat. Oh..God..somehow managed not to have the glimpse of his spit and hopped to left and right of my seat like a kangarooooooo. Like this the same process went on every now and then and i reached TNagar after 10-15 times of spitting by him and me avoiding it to have a look at it. Oh..god it was so frustrating and gross also.

Same time i started to look around also and in this chennai city, people have a generic habbit of spitting in the city very casually and it is not considered as a wrong doing or a mannersless doing. I am feeling very bad and want to educate everyone of these people not to spit in the city and spoil the roads and make an awareness on the health ground.

Will anyone listen if I start telling everyone not to spit on the roads and public places?

Can anyone join with me in this drive?

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Beware of maid servent agencies

Hi all

Beware of Maid Servent agencies.

What these agencies do?

They collect one month salary of these maid servents and keep it with them, with a unwritten rule/condition stating that they will provide 3 servents per year and thats why they charge the one month salary of the servent. Then they provide a servent and will deploy them at our house for a while. Then one fine day they will revoke the servent stating she is not wishing to work at your house as you are asking her personal contact address, ration card etc..and she is asking that whether we are not believing her.

Trust is not the matter here. Lots of these kind of servents are roaming within the city. They do some kind of crime or something and get into a nice house with all the facilities and nice food. Then after a few days they run away.

One more thing, these servents, they look for an opportunity to steal from our house. And they behave too good to us and be very nice with us also. But at the same time they will be very shrewd in keep looking for a nice chance to steal from us. But if they do not have a chance to steal at all, they will run away from our house stating some kind of complaint on us.
I do not know, and wonder, whether these agencies make any back ground check or not on these maids.

Better not to go these agencies and lose our money to them. There is no written rules they follow and they do not fear for police also.

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What a man expect from his wife?

What a man expect from his wife????

Mankind is unique. Early man goes out in search of food. Finds a girl. Thinks he can take her with him to his self chores. Takes her. She thinks she is the owner of the the guy and takes care of him and the kids she gets in the nature's way. Man starts to take ownership of the girl. Wants her to be beautiful and wants her to serve only him. Wants her to be a slave to him.

The elder people says, women should think that it is her pride to serve as a slave for her family. But the modern men thinks she needs to be his slave though she earns for him.

The modern man wants the women to be a multifaceted person. She should earn as well as be beautiful in front of her guy always. She should go out, earn and still need to be beautiful and stand in front of him. Never she should be tired off. She cannot complain. She should not grudge. She will be never allowed to let her feelings. She should be a pay less caterer to the whole family. Take responsibilities of whatever happens in the family. Handover all the money to the guy she loves and still be happy and beautiful in front of him. Never wear any dress for her comfort and be cool at home........Kids too expect too much from their mother. They want her to be a total care taker for them. They will not do a single chore at home and not feeling for it also.

What a life for a women in this world....... Sick of thinking on this.

Want to fly away from all these clutches and go somewhere and be alone.........
Never wanting to return back.........

What Diabetes Meant to Be?

Diabetes.........It is troubling me a lot. I am fed up of this disease. I cannot eat whatever i like to. Only limited numbers in anything i choose to eat.
Cannot eat bananas, sweets, appam with coconut milk, sugar as a side dish, payasams, kozhukattai......blah..blah...blah............

Moreover even if i am strict in my diet, if I am not going for a walk, this also not controls the diabetes and i am worried now.

I am not at all able to be regular in a morning walk, strict in my diet too......Do not know, where i am going to end with.....UTI infection is killing me and my mood too..

Traffic manners in Chennai

Ooooooops!!!!!!! It is a big adventorus event to travel from one place to another in chennai. When you commute in auto we curse the car and bike guys and when we commute in our car we curse the auto and bike guys. No one in chennai has a social awareness and no one wants to follow the traffic rules. If there is a small lane space, the BIG Innova wants to overtake all the vehicles beside it. What a shame on Chennai people? No one cares about other people.

The next big thing is tolerance. No one is wanting to wait for the traffic to move. They just keep honking each other. Oh my God!......I cannot just tolerate the 'Beep' 'Beep' sound they keep doing, even when the traffic is smooth. People create the stress to other people easily by just honking and making them to go speed or go and fall some where. Why this hurry in the morning? Why no one is responsible? But everyone wants to reach the destined place to keep up the responsibility they hold at their respective offices, schools, colleges and at home. But why no one want to take the responsibility of being human and take the ownership of the roads and the places they commute and why no traffic manners!!!!!!!!

I FEEL ONLY EDUCATION AND BRINGING DEEP DOWN AWARENESS AMONG PEOPLE ONLY WILL IMPROVISE PEOPLE AND STANDARD OF LIVING.................

WHEN THIS WILL HAPPEN???????????????

hmmmmm........ the travel from my home to office today was so horrible and adventoureos which made me to write this blog today......... I am not happy in this monday morning and i feel depressed due to the traffic and congested population......

If i have 2 BIG WINGS... i fly down some where in this world for a while, be alone for a while and rejuvenate my feelings and come back to this PIG STY to live for ever as i am destined to live in this Chennai and its traffic...........

"Nel Vasanai"

Have you heard of "Nel Vasanai"...... I had an experience to have the "Nel vasanai". Last week we visited a amman temple at periapalayam. On the way back, towards "Red hills", it was an excellent drive with nice picturesque atmosphere. Both sides of the road looked like a green carpet full of paddy fields. We stopped at one place to take a few pictures and once we got down near a paddy field we smelt an excellent 'Nel Vasanai".......... Good experience......

I Love Paddy Fields!!!!!!!

by msraje

by msraje

My Honest Maid

14 years before i was introduced to my maid called 'sakkubai' by my mother-in-law. She was working for my mother in law in the morning and evening. She is a very very good human. Never never we could find such a kind of honest woman in the world. She is so attached with us. She has a son and a daughter. Both of them got married and were staying near by our nagar only. She loves my daughter like her own kid. When my daughter was 1 year she started to take care of her when i went to my work. She used to lift my daughter to her school when she was in L.K.G. She used to feed and take care of my kids like heaven. She is so attached. But my husband is little bit in difference in treating her. She eats lot of pawn and my husband never likes her, because she used to look little bit ugly too. She never takes bath unless otherwise we keep insisting her.

But i always look at her heart. So plain and so honest. One should have experienced her honesty and cleanliness in her mind. We always call her 'Ayah'. Meanwhile for a period of 3 years we had to go to US and still she was working for my mother in law looking after all her household work. Once we came back from US and settled down, she came back to us to work with us. She is very loyal to us and never never touches anything from our rooms. Even if we keep a lakh rupees she will never touches it. Once my husband kept around Rs.1000 in his jogging pants, and put it to wash. She just gave back and said, it was there in the pants while she was washing. Once i left our bedroom door open with all almirahs open and still she was sitting at the hall telling me she got afraid to see that i forgot to lock the room and she was sitting beside it all day. What a woman she is.....I cannot forget her in my life. At times we used to yell at her, but still she loves us.

She gives aways all her earned money to her son every month. She never keeps any money with her. She always says, she does not need any money for herself at all. We give all basic necessary things to live with, so she never expects anything else from anyone of us. Eating habits used to be so good with her. She never even picks up one banana in our absence. She waits everyday for me to come home to get a coffee....Oh my god.....she is a great lady. She takes care of my house and its neatness like anything and never allows me to do any single cleaning job. Good hearted lady she is.........

Today, her son came and picked her up stating that she has become very aged and old, and everyone of his relative is questioning him it seems, stating that why he has allowed her in another person's place. Therefore , without any heart i Sent her away, begging her son to look after well...

She is a good woman indeed and was an attached person with me. I think today, whole day she will be crying all alone, as she loves me and my children. She could not part from us, this morning and started to weep like a kid. But what to do, even thinking of her age, even i had to make her go.........

Now, i am doomed with out a honest, nice, loyal servant who never complains, never wanting to eat tooooooo much and without any expectations. I have never treated her like a servant and always thought she is one of our family member. She is good and beautiful in her heart.

Let GOD make her happy at her son's residence.

A weeping soul for a honest maid..........

Hostile neighbourhood

Finding a good neighbourhood is a mountainous job now a days. We settled at our residence in RK nagar close to 1 year before and till date, we do not have one good friend from our neighbourhood. People are so hostile and does not want to talk to each other OR nor even bother to say a 'hi' or a 'good morning'.

Recently i attended Sri Sri Ravishankar's AOL and to practically use the teachings i had there, one day, I greeted my opposite flat female with a "hi" and a "good morning". First thing she did not responded for my greeting and second thing, she utilized my greeting moment to remind me of the flat maid salary contribution, which i had not paid yet. I felt bad. Yeah......one part is that i had missed out to pay that amount earlier, but what i expected was, a reply for my greeting and in a nicer way to ask for the maid's salary.

Similarly, my downstairs female. She is of another type. One rainy day, we had to use her cloth drying string and she came up allover and asked me to remove it as it was her property!!!!!!! But at the same time, she uses our car park for her dog and she never feels for it. What a neighbour i have.

Another guy, who is always grumbling about our flat promoter and never has an intention to speak to us also.

One thing is final......As per AOL We should never complain about others, and never grumble about others. But we should always, live in the present and opposite sources of people always co-exists and we should try to be good with them, though they are not good with us. We should never complain about them though they complain about us.

I think, i will die without a good neighbour ever in my life!!!!!!!

Horrible experience with a cook at home.

Keeping a cook at home. First thought of this idea came up to my mind is creating a 'problem' at home.
Sometime back myself and my husband thought we will keep a cook at home for the following purposes:

1. To prepare the food ready by the time we two reach home and can have some quality time with the kids.
2. To go for a relaxed walk with out any house hold chore confusions.

I asked our house maid to arrange for a cook and one fine rainy day, she brought one middle aged woman and to look from outside she was healthy and clean. My husband always give value to health and cleanliness and he said, let us say OK to this cook and asked whether she knows to cook. She said she knows everything. I opened my common sense and told, you may know to cook, but you may not know to cook for our taste. So she should be learning for few days from me. She also accepted the same, and the cooking process by her went on well with a few initial hiccups and she started to do chappathis, subjis, sambar etc.... After a few days, she did not turn up and when we called her, she said, the salary should be atleast Rs.50 per day. I became worried and furious, but my husband said, let her come and let us pay Rs.1500 pm.
She again started all over. Till......

1) Everything went on well till i asked her to make one extra curry or asked her to cut some vegetables for the next day.
2) My husband's intervention in telling the menu's like the ones which she doesnot know to make either or it is not possible to make with in her time limits. [She will never work beyond 1 hour ..that is between 7pm to 8pm]

She started to get irritated and she will not do perfectly.

What is a cook's job
1) Need to start cooking with the menu
2) Before starting to cook check for all the items which are bare minimum necessary for the item to be cooked
3) If not available, should ask the people around at home, and ask for an alternative menu
4) If available, if someone has given wrong measure of the cooking, should be able to asssess and cross check wither the one which was said was right(because once my husband asked to make little curd rice, to be eaten along with chappathi.....She kept 1.5 tumblers of rice with 100 ml of curd available in the fridge. She neither asked how much curd is available and whether 1.5 tumblers of rice is necessary to make at that night)

Basically, i thought that cook is a fool and no brains. She never communicated with us properly. Always grumbling to go home within 1 hour and no taste also. Always partial cooked subjis. Oily currys. Yak!!!!!!!

At last I stopped her for 2 reasons:

1) I can never change my husband's mind set up, who will ask for unreasonable, incompetent menu at odd times. And he even interferes whenever i try to convey some thing to her with a new menu. Therefore who ever the cook, they cannot co-operate at our home, as there are 2 minds in the backend of the menu which will never work out.
2) She was poor in communicating and did not wanted to improve and she never wanted to become a customized cook for us.

hmmmm.......finally I am back in the journey of cooking at my kitchen.............................

My experiences with AOL - Sudharshana Kriya

I am not a strong believer of GOD and i always feel that there is a super power beyond..which is driving us all. Few years before, my husband attended the AOL basic course and told about his experiences. I did not believe though!. He insisted me to signup for the course and i was keep on denying it. One fine day, i saw an ad in the local newspaper, that an AOL course is planned to be conducted to the opposite of my house. My husband forcefully made me to enter into the course. The first day was an introductory day and everyone of the persons, who had gone through the course already expresed their experiences and nothing fascinated me either. The course went on smoothly and the second day of the course they taught us the famous core part of the AOL...."the great 'Sudharshana Kriya". I started to take up the process with some reluctance in my mind, as my husband had already gave an hint about it. But 'wow', once we completed the process, i did not wanted to speak with any one. Wanted to observe silence for ever. So cooooool!!!I felt good, in all the consecutive days and have started to practice at home too as per the teacher's direction. Once i have undergone the course, i browsed through lots of websites speaking about the kriya and their experiences(both bad and good), so much criticisms on Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, stating that he has not taught anything new to the people and has commercialized the old wine into a new attractive container....etc.......But nothing disturbs me, I honestly appreciate this guy Sri Sri Ravishankar that he has come out boldly to teach his experience in his life. Good or Bad it is upto us to follow. He is not compelling any one in the world. No one is compelled to buy any books or ayurvedha products.Once i had a chance to visit his ashram at kanakapura, Bangalore also. One who gets the charitable money, needs to be spent in good way and i feel thats what Sri Sri is doing. I will come back to this blog, once i complete my kriya practice for at least 30 days to tell my experience. Now it will be too early to share with. But right now i feel very good and likes to be silent always. Have a clear mind to think about.